From Inside Every Woman by Vickie L. Milazzo:
As the victim of another person’s lapse of integrity, you feel violated and hurt. But you can learn from it. When this happens to me, I try to turn it into a lesson.
Any time we’re falsely accused or others are making us the bad guy, we can’t help feeling the weight of it, even if they’re totally wrong. However we remedy the situation, we have to ask ourselves, "Did I breach integrity in some way?" If so, own up to it. If not, then own up to that, too. Just because a faction differs with your opinion doesn’t mean they’re right or you’re wrong. If you can remedy the problem without making anyone the bad guy, do so. If not, demonstrate your own integrity and be more concerned about who you are than who you are reputed to be. Be less dependent on praise, and criticism will sting a lot less.
