"How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it." Marcus Aurelius
Anger is far too familiar to me, and I don't handle it especially well. My personal defense mechanism against anger is disengagement, detachment, and it makes me extremely wary. This is especially true if anger toward me seems unprovoked. There seems to be little defense against anger when it comes your way, and retaliation by the angry person often is impossible to anticipate or predict.
Neglected anger is completely frustrating to me. By that I mean the silent treatment, you know, the "no, nothing's wrong" you sometimes get when it is so obvious that a great deal is wrong.
Anger in absence is worse, when someone you would rather not have angry at you is angry anyway. I really dislike that, not being able to respond, not being able to get it resolved quickly.
So if you get angry at someone – and it happens – do it with some passion, or at least some urgency. You know, get it done, get it over with. Don't let anger ruin whole days.
