It seems I need to read this fairly regularly. From Happily Remarried by David and Lisa Frisbie:
The antidote to anger is forgiveness: the process of releasing our anger and frustration, thus restoring the inner health of our soul and spirit. Although difficult, forgiveness is critically important even when you have been greatly wronged.
Forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of anger and move forward, regardless of the unfairness and injustice of the situation. It is the act of taking control of your own emotions, making your own decisions about values and choices and personal identity. It is the beginning of healing.
This is true. I have tried rationalizing the transgressor's wrongful behavior in an effort to understand why she did what she did. Understanding that she will always be that way, that nothing I do or don't do will make any difference, seems to have given me the freedom to get over it. I know I am not at fault, so I can leave animosity behind, and simply (?) forgive.
Time and distance certainly help the process of forgiving, but what if it is necessary for you to have frequent contact with the thorn in your side? Bleeding from tiny pricks is still bleeding.
An attitude of gratitude for the GOOD things you have in your life is a must...freedom to live a life of joy, the ability to appreciate and embrace beauty and wonder, freedom to choose who you spend your time with, the ability to work and to play. Those things are yours to enjoy. Now let go of the anger and forgive. The anger never helped, and only made you sick.
Choosing to forgive is good for your health. Besides, the best revenge is to prosper and be happy.
Posted by: Cathy | September 5, 2006 9:46 AM | Permalink to Comment